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(re)evaluate: to once again determine the value of

 Let what you say be simply ‘Yes’ or ‘No’; anything more than this comes from evil. (Matthew 5:37 ESV)

Just say ‘yes’ and ‘no.’ When you manipulate words to get your own way, you go wrong. (Matthew 5:37 The Message)


I am a “yes” person. I readily give my yes to most requests; however over the years I have learned that “no” is an appropriate answer as well. So many times, when I’ve said “yes” hastily, I find myself overwhelmed, and in a place of regret and re-evaluation.

Now I pause, before I give assent to an opportunity. As a writer and artist, the skill of saying no and meaning it is crucial. If I said yes to everything I would never write and I would never enjoy my art studio.

As a created, creative person I have learned what primes my pump and I know what fuels my enthusiasm for my work. I need a balance between solitude and community.

Today, I am choosing to say yes to a community that will be saying yes to reading, responding to and re-visioning our writing lives around Dave Harrity’s book, Making Manifest: On Faith, Creativity and the Kingdom at Hand. Our host for this interactive group is Sandra Heska King, a fellow blogger and word lover, who serves up sweet morsels of life at her place, where she focuses on the “still” life.

Check out these two recent posts from Sandra to get a flavor of what she offers.

Richard Foster on Silence and Writing (This post caused me to re-evaluate my yes and no answers to life.)

Making Manifest: Your Days are Waiting (This post gives you a taste of Sandra’s savory words and luscious photography.)

(For the month of May, I will be reflecting here about the “Making Manifest” adventure on Thursdays.)

Here’s a intro video to the idea of “Making Manifest”:

and a reflective poem, I penned in response to these thoughts milling around in my head.

Yes and no.
No and yes.
These are true answers,
honest to God responses.

Maybe, a pause–

a moment
to reflect before
answering no or yes–

cultivates rest.




16 responses to “(re)evaluate: to once again determine the value of”

  1. I’ve been a yes person–in part because I didn’t want to miss out on anything. And also, I think, because I liked the idea of being needed. And I’m sure there was a sense of seeking approval. It’s taken me a long time to learn to say no, that it was good and right to say no to very good things in order to say yes to the best things–for me. And that includes giving myself space to be still. I adore this poem! And I’m so glad you’ve said “yes” to this. 🙂

    1. Sandra- Thanks again for the invitation…I totally relate to all the reasons you mention for being a Yes person…I am glad that God gave us the freedom to say yes and no. Thanks about the poem…I kinda am smitten with it, too…thanks be to God for his new and fresh mercies.

  2. WHat? I will have to check it out! Love your (w)ords always, Kel!

    1. Dawn- I think you would love this adventure…of course, check with God first, if you should say yes or no! Hugs! Kel

      1. ha! I think I have to say no at the moment but do love the bent of it!

  3. So glad you said “yes” to this one Kel. It is always a blessing when we are together on a journey! This one looks to be just what God is calling us to at such a time as this.

    1. Kelly- Yes it’s our writing adventure month…I can’t wait to see what God pours into each of us and out onto the page! Love you-Kel

  4. I agree that the “pause” is key
    I too have most often answered too quickly
    when a still space would have led to wiser choices

    1. All I can say is thank God for His kindness that leads me to repentance and that I am finally learning His lessons that saying no at times is his best for me! Selah!

  5. This sounds like such a wonderful thing to say “yes” to. Good for you! It is hard for me to say “no” also, but I am better about it than I used to be. There are too many opportunities out there to do them all so we have to learn to be discerning. Easier said than done at times…but every little bit of progress adds up.

    1. Yes, learning when to say yes or no is a lifelong journey!

  6. Kel, I had to say no to this book study because is just too full and as I told Sandy, ‘another marble would fall out if I crammed anymore in.’
    But I can ‘eavesdrop’……..yay! I’ll be back. I so look forward to this conversation.

    1. “LIFE is just too full.” Sheesh–apparently my brain is too full as well.

      1. so glad you know your limits, Jody! Glad you can eavesdrop…it’s going to be a great conversation…just three days in and I sense God freeing me up and rejuvenating my writing life.

  7. Such a wonderful poem and point of focus!
    We need to listen and be mindful, to know when to answer Yes and No.
    Blessings to your weekend,

    1. Blessings to you, too!

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Hi! My name is Kel Rohlf. I am an intuitive mixed-media artist, creative writer and performer. Life is a performance. I often attend.


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