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un(flinching): staying strong and determined even when things are difficult

Through suffering, our bodies continue to share in the death of Jesus so that the life of Jesus may also be seen in our bodies.     (2 Corintians 4:10 NLT)

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“Lord, help us to see in your Crucifixion and Resurrection an example of how to endure and seemingly die in the agony and conflict of daily life, so that we may live more fully and creatively.” (Mother Teresa)

I wish I could say that my life is marked by unflinching faith and unshaken devotion to God’s will. But then I would be telling an untruth. It is my goal to stay strong and determined during difficult times, but honest reflection shows me that my heart is often unyielding. I just want to push through the hard stuff to alleviate my pain.

This weekend, we celebrated my father-in-law’s life. He was a steady man. And a faithful husband, father, grandfather and great-grandfather. He modeled love and servant-hood to his four sons, and they in turn love and serve their families and others with the same unflinching compassion of their father.

I want to be more like each of them, because frankly each one of them is a lot like the Good Shepherd that led their father. They embrace the suffering of daily life with pragmatism and creativity. And I appreciate this about the Rohlf clan.

My husband and I took a walk on Saturday to enjoy the spring like weather, to pause before an evening of being with family, reminiscing and preparing for the memorial service on Sunday. His foot slipped and the next thing we knew he was on his back. He lie there unflinching, checking his own elbow; stabilizing it on his own. In the meantime, I frantically left him with a kind stranger, so I could get our car to transport him to urgent care.

He has been enduring the pain with much decorum and some pain medicine, but he is the epitome of this “un” word. Oh, he gets frustrated and says bad words, just like me, but overall, he steadily trusts God.

And he helps me to look for the calm in the midst of life’s storms. Jesus shines through the dark clouds of our difficulty as the ray of  my husband’s familiar smile greets me, as we moved from appointment to appointment today to prepare for elbow repair surgery. Through Les’ suffering, Jesus’ life radiates through him. I am grateful to be a recipient of this unflinching love.


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10 responses to “un(flinching): staying strong and determined even when things are difficult”

  1. I recently celebrated my father-in-law’s life,too, and appreciate the legacy of love and commitment that he passed down to sons. I am also glad to be a recipient of unflinching love from a man who loves well. I hope your man recuperates well, both in his elbow and his soul as he and all of you grieve the loss of his dad.

    1. Thanks Kathleen…Life is full of bumps and turns and endings but thanks be to God who is our healer in the present and has eternity prepared for us because of His Son!

  2. Oh, Kel. How I appreciate your digging in deep reflective perspective on words. As I read your book, pray for you in these recent occurrences and enjoy your creative spirit I am blessed greatly with your beautiful and real spirit! Hugs, sweet sister!

    1. Thanks Dawn! It’s always a joy to share the journey with another spirited sister! I appreciate your prayers muchly! The natural stress of these situations has me resting in the presence of the Lord and amazingly He pours out words and inspirations in the midst of the grief and the fears and the need for healing in body and spirit and soul!

  3. I love how you are so real with your writing and living your life

    1. Thanks Lesley for your friendship and support through this REAL life!

  4. Wow. Y’all have been through much emotional and physical turmoil. I pray for Les’s speedy recovery, and for grace as you grieve the loss of his father….

    1. Thanks Lisa…yes, the emotional and physical turmoil is taking its toll, but God is our refuge and resting place 🙂

  5. Beautiful post — I empathize especially as we recently lost my husband’s mother and celebrated her life. Thanks so much for visiting and commenting on Saved by Grace!
    Your blog is a blessing and I am now following it, and I invite you to follow Saved by Grace also:
    Love in Him,
    Laurie Collett

    1. Laurie- So sorry for your loss. May God comfort you! Kel

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Hi! My name is Kel Rohlf. I am an intuitive mixed-media artist, creative writer and performer. Life is a performance. I often attend.


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